Bloody Dawats!

Dawat (n) – A festive or joyous meal; a grand, ceremonious, or sumptuous entertainment, of which many guests partake; a banquet characterized by tempting variety and abundance of food.

As children of Bangladeshi heritage, you will all understand the importance of social life. Our social life plays a great big role in our lives, so much that it overshadows personal development, hobbies, extra-curricular activities and the general passion to do something different. We become enslaved to the need to being around people, having a good laugh, wearing nice clothes and generally having a good night.

Such has been my life, until quite recently. Ever since I can remember, weekends were basically dedicated to decking up, being excited about who we are going to see and what we are going to eat, eating, then coming home and going to bed. Level of self-development attained – ZERO. Plans for next week? Same thing. A continuous cycle of parties, events and the same people. But please, do not misunderstand me. I love the friends I have made over the years. But in the process of making friends, we Bangladeshi children have lost ourselves.

If someone asked me today, what my hobbies are, I would simply shrug my shoulders. Honestly, I do not know. I do not know who I am and what I like doing and this is mainly because I have spent my entire life being around other people. Ask me, what I like doing or what I’d do if I were by myself I wouldn’t know because I was not raised to grow my own hobbies. I was raised to pick up on hobbies passed down from previous generations. And if we chose not to pick up on those habits, hell probably broke lose. There is no such thing as individualism in a Bangladeshi household. You are either your mother’s child or your father’s because you do the same things that they like doing. Your parents probably picked up the same habits from their parents or relatives. Take a closer look at those “traits” – was it usually cooking, sewing, active participation in politics? How long have these been passed down?

I went to a private elite private school in Malaysia where I spent some of the most loneliest and difficult days of my life, primarily due to racism and preferential treatment of over-privileged white kids. The school held extra-curricular activities during weekends. Never once could I attend any of those. Why? Dawats. Every weekend it was either an invitation to eat at someone’s house or a group of families travelled together to a certain location to chat, be entertained, eat and be entertained further. Sadly and quite often, after we came home, we were asked to write an essay about the picnic. A picnic arranged by our parents, which we had no say in, and in my case – wearing clothes pre-decided for me.

I could never fit in with the children at Alice Smith. We had nothing in common. I had nothing I could talk to them about. In a typical Bangladeshi household, you only went to parties. We did not do anything interesting over the weekend or picked up a new activity. I liked going to museums and because my mother did not, we only went the one time because you cannot live in a country and not visit the most famous tourist attractions. However, that was it. We went to Bangladesh every damn school holiday because my father wanted us to have a connection with our homeland. A pretty redundant connection if you ask me. My country has done nothing for me, nor will it ever so why bother keeping this connection? For years and years I suffered because I was a mediocre, boring brown kid in school that had nothing interesting to say. I had no friends. for five years, I suffered. I suffered tremendously.

There is a need to allow our children to find a safe place in their lives – a safe places in their hobbies. We need to allow them to grow into an activity they find most appealing. Some Bangladeshi parents will say, “He’s too young to know what she likes so he’ll do what I make him do.” NO! How can you expect the mind of a 5 year old to decide what he wants to do with the remaining 70 years of his life? How can you expect him to know things when he is barely understanding how the world operates or how to string letters into words and words into sentences? We can guide them and encourage them to take up an activity that they think they will enjoy. But we should not and CANNOT rebuke them for chaging their minds. Let them change their little minds. as many times as they need!

By allowing our children to grow into their own shoes we are giving them the greatest gift of all – self-confidence. I want Maheera to take her own decisions. As a parent I am there to help, guide and encourage her. But if I decide for her, she will never have the confidence she needs to prosper. Each and every one of us have a different mechanism which is ignited in a different way. You cannot pre-determine this. You, as parents, cannot ignite their machinery for them. You need to let them figure that out for themselves. They have to develop their own poise and understand who they are and what they are capable of. You cannot do this for them. Don’t raise puppets or miniature version of yourselves and feel brought that your child took after you. I would be beaming if my daughter was a pretty damn good version of herself, confident in her acts and decisions.

I recently picked up again on photography and I sent a few photos to my parents. One of them, asked a few questions about where the place was and a few technical questions. The other said nothing. Photography does not interest that parent. What they fail to see her that this has deeply discouraged me so much so that I feel like giving it up. As parents, your children always look up to you for approval. Because they know nothing but you and you are everything to them. Why is it that Bangladeshi parents do not appreciate the things their children do as soon as it is different from their own interests? Why do we fail in your eyes if we do not do the things you would like us to do?

If I had cooked a grand meal of 16 dishes and filled my dining table form one corner to the other and invited 12 guests, our mothers would burst with pride. If I actively took part in idealism and read every magazine of The Economist back to front, our fathers would have no regrets. What if I did neither? How have I thus failed? Do you know where I actually failed?

I do not know who I am. Am I my mother or am I my father? Am I combination of both? Am I an Australian or am I a Bangladeshi? Do I like photography? Do I like sewing? I have no skill because I spent my entire life accompanying you to dawats. I have no confidence in myself because I cannot decide for myself. Every time I did not meet your expectation, I became I failure. I strongly draw a thick black line between this and the need to have a good social life. Society will never help you be a better person. Society will bring you down because everyone wants to reach the top.

As you grow Maheera, I promise you two things, we will travel to understand and learn about humanity. We will learn about humility and how our differences are our greatest strengths. We will also give ourselves the time and the space to grow and discover what shape we want to take so we can stand proud.



**Disclaimer** This article is my observation of the general society. Is it neither aimed at anyone nor meant to serve as a message to anyone. I value everyone’s opinions. If you agree or disagree with my observations, please leave me a comment. In the past, people have decided to stop being my friend because of we differ in opinion.  That is not something I can control. We all have the right to have different opinions and to share them. I apologise in advance if my article offends you.


Telling your friends about your issues will possibly never solve the problems. Telling the people who hurt you will definitely not solve the problem. Most of the time, they will either find a way to justify their actions or take offence. I’m sorry… You took offence?

Its a strange world we live in and unfortunately there is no way out of it. We HAVE to live here. We HAVE to live with the same people day after day, night after night. I wish I could pay a monthly fee of $14.99 and upgrade to Life GOLD which entails no shit. Now, that’s a business I want to start. Any partners and investors?

I want to say that people have lost their humanity and their sense of guilt and compassion. How many of you would concur unconditionally? By unconditionally, how many of you thought your actions never hurt anyone but in actual fact it did and you didn’t give it a second thought because you created some self-justifying system? Let’s be honest here. No matter how simple or small or insignificant the matter was, how many of us have truly felt guilt because of our actions? Believe it or not, the smallest amount guilt have completely upset my day to the point where I dropped everything and went home and sulked. Maybe I am overly sensitive and a complete idiot. The point is, I don’t find anything wrong in that. I was born with human qualities and part of that means being empathetic and thoughtful. After all, wasn’t our primary school teachers raving on and on about how thoughtful we should be? Did we forget these basic lessons of life?

In his theory of natural selection, found in the book title Origin of Species, Charles Darwin suggested that “survival of the fittest” was the basis for our survival. At first, the principal attraction of natural history studies was to confirm the ingenuity of God. The publication of Darwin’s On the Origin of Species in 1859 changed this attitude. In his chapter on instinct, Darwin was concerned with whether behavioural traits can evolve as a result of natural selection. Since then, biologists have recognized that the behaviours are adaptations that exist because they have, over evolutionary time helped their bearers to survive and reproduce. This theory was based on long-term observations of animals in their natural settings.

The University of Michigan published a study [1] showing that today’s youth are approximately 40 percent less empathetic than youth from the 1980’s. Reasons for this drop-in empathy is anyone’s guess, but the increase in media (both social and mainstream) and violent video games have been trotted out as the likely suspects.

Social media have played a huge role in the drop of compassion levels in human beings. Competitiveness and a must-succeed-at-all-costs philosophy is far more. Feeling empathy for others takes time and effort, which could be better spent, in our minds, on achieving our own goals. Call me a conspiracy theorist but could all of this be pre-planned? Has it always been in the agenda of the rulers of the world that they will diminish human bonds to make it easier to control the masses?

Why have we become the “Me Generation”? Kornrath, who is also affiliated with the University of Rochester Department of Psychiatry concludes that “young adults today comprise one of the most self-concerned, competitive, confident, and individualistic cohorts in recent history.” Kornrath argues that part of the explanation for decreased levels of empathy for young people may be as a result of changes in parenting styles in the 1980’s, when parents focused on nurturing if not spoiling children, and focused on success and competition. The researchers observed that young people today “may be so busy worrying about themselves and their own issues that they don’t have time to spend empathizing with others, or at least perceive such time to be limited.”[2] Why have we become so unconsciously programmed to be competitive? Society has truly changed. “Success” does not mean there is a pre-emptive right to feel superior.  We no longer feel the need to turn around and ask a simple question because we have justified this as “Its their private life, I do not want to invade.” We longer feel tht our actions could upset another. We are all programmed to look straight ahead and reach the top. Social responsibility has been replaced with competition and self-regard.

So where does that leave us? Are we becoming more narcissistic, less empathetic, led by GenMe, or are we moving toward a more empathetic age, one that has social justice, social responsibility, sustainability and concern for our environment as of paramount importance? It seems to me that both things are happening. We are moving to a new age of concocted and pre-determined social concerns, while at the same time, the last throes of narcissistic, materialistic and “externally focused” values are embraced. A contradiction? Paradox? Perhaps, but thus is the nature of our universe.

The Women & Children Repression Prevention Act 2000 of Bangladesh


Following the rising violence against women, especially rape incidents throughout the country, the protection of woman and child has become the centre point of discussion. As these incidents seem to be irresistible, curbing the violence against women has become a challenge for us.

Presently there is no doubt that people committing crimes against women and children must be punished to ensure justice. On the other hand, it is also necessary to protect innocent victims of malicious prosecution. However there exists a common trend in Bangladesh to use the public emotion and opinion on these issues. As a result, there is a very high chance of using the laws regarding women and child protection in favour of someone’s vindictive purpose.

The Bangladesh Women & Children Repression Prevention Act 2000 (Nari-O-Shishu Nirjaton Daman Ain) (the “Act”) is a specialized law that passed into law and came in force on 17 July 1995. This law mainly deals with the violence’s against women and children.

This Act contains stringent provisions for prevention of offences related to oppression on women and children. Trafficking and kidnaping of children and woman, rape, death resulting from rape and dower, sexual harassment etc. are dealt with under this legislation. According to Section 250 of the Code the Criminal Procedure, Section 211 of the Code of the Criminal Procedure and Section 17 of the Act the complainant shall be given protection throughout the whole procedure .The Act was introduced with great expectation to reduce and remove the violence against women and children.

The Procedure in brief

Section 19 of this Act renders all the offences punishable under this Act as ‘cognisable’. According to Sec.4 (1) (f) of Code of Criminal Procedure (CrPC), a ‘cognisable offence’ is one for which a police officer may arrest someone without any warrant. Therefore, a person accused under the Act may be arrested immediately. However, the police will only arrest such a person if, he (the accused) has been concerned in any cognisable offence or against whom a reasonable complaint has been made or credible information has been received or a reasonable suspicion exists of his been so concerned. In most of the cases, therefore, police may arrest the person against whom any complaint has been made for committing any offence under the Act. It may be prudent to mention that in certain circumstances, a private person may also arrest any person if that private person believes that the other person has committed a non-bailable and cognisable offence. But, in such cases the arrestee must be handed over to the police without any unnecessary delay.

The provisions in relation to investigation are contained in the S. 18 of the Act. According to S. 18 (1)(a), investigation into the offences shall have to be concluded within fifteen working days from the date of the arrest of the accused or handing over of the accused to the police while caught red handed at the time of commissioning of the offence. Alternatively, S. 18(1) (b) provides for the investigation to be completed within sixty working days where the accused is not caught red handed but in consequence of the lodging of First Information Report (FIR) or following order of investigation by the authorized officer or the Tribunal. The time limit may be extended subject to the fulfilment of conditions contained in the subsequent sections. So, from the aforesaid provisions it seems that investigation of any Complaint regarding oppressive behaviour against women and children does not depend on arrest of the accused person.

Law requires every case to be investigated followed by the Police Report to be submitted to the Court. In the meantime since the offence in question is an arrestable (cognisable) one, the law-enforcing agency is in duty bound to arrest the accused person pending the outcome of the investigation as per Law. After the accused is arrested, he may pray before the Tribunal under sec. 19 to enlarge him on bail. Furthermore, to avoid the arrest, the accused may try to get anticipatory bail from the Hon’ble High Court Division under section 498 of the CrPC.

Since the provisions under the Act are considerably harsh against the accused, to protect malicious prosecution, section 17 provides for rigorous imprisonment for a term not exceeding seven years and fine in case if someone lodges a false complain or files a false case with intent to cause harm to other person.

The rights that a person may possess in relation to arrest are contained between sections 46-67 of the CrPC. Some of the important rights may be as follows:

  1. The person arrested to be taken before Magistrate or officer in charge of police station without unnecessary delay.
  2. The arrestee cannot be detained for more than twenty-four hours.
  3. The police have to follow the rules regarding search of the arrestee and seizure of any material.

Abuse of the Act

The abuse of this law has a very adverse impact on our legal system. Innocent people are suffering for this law. At the same time, it is facilitating further malpractices in the legal system. It has caused loss of substantial resources of the state and society as good amounts of working hours are spent by the complainants or informants, police, jail personnel, lawyers, judges and the support personnel and staff of the courts. Friends and relatives of the accused, victims and witnesses and their associated costs and expenditures are also factors to consider regarding misuse of resources.

Thousands of innocent persons have been jailed for many months, including scores of older men, women and children. Even organizations working for women’s rights acknowledge that, plaintiffs who are aggrieved with minor conjugal issues misuse this law. Ultimately, this situation deprives everyone from the possibilities of remedies. Women often file false graver allegations against their husbands or convinced by their lawyers to do so although the conjugal issues may not be that much serious. If proved guilty, that innocent husband receives conviction; but if proved innocent, the aggrieved women lose the chances of reconciliation.




The night before I embarked on a 14 hour journey with my 6 month old, I did not sleep a wink. I stayed awake preparing and over preparing. What would I need? What would she need? What do you give a 6 month old if they are bored? Will she throw up? What happens if she doesn’t throw up? How much formula should I take? How much sterilised water should I take? Questions! Questions! Questions! But no answers. No answers until I had actually made the 14 hour journey with my 6 month old.


As it turns out, I actually did not need half the stuff I carried with me. And funnier still, Maheera was less of a bother than all the bags and equipment I had to hand carry. Kingsford Airport staff were absolutely wonderful. Mothers with babies were treated like royalty! Everyone helped! Even a fellow male passenger whom I reminded him of the first time he traveled with this wife and three kids. “What a mess it was!” he exclaimed as he helped me load off the stroller from the security belt. Indeed, it was a mess! Taking all liquid out and putting it all back in. All mothers are extremely protective of the baby bag. Not because it contains my baby’s food but because it is organised to my liking and disarraying that organization would mean you just got on my last nerve!

Changi Airport was not so welcoming to mothers with infants. First of all, unless you had access to luxury lounges, there were no proper parents’ room. All toilets were absolutely spotless but most were fitted with a plastic change tables. Airport staff were not very friendly either. At the security post before the waiting lounge, security officers expected me to carry Maheera, collapse the stroller, place it on the belt, place all bags on the belt as well as take out my laptop and then rebuild the whole thing at the other end of the scanning machine. I asked them one question, “How do I do this with one hand? I need help.” Help did eventually come but these little things are so stressful for a mother travelling alone.

IMG_7351.JPGWhilst I was absolutely relived when I saw my mother’s face at the end of the journey, I do confess that I did learn a lot and it was an experience altogether. Maheera made no fuss at all. She ate when hungry, slept with sleepy. She only whined at the end of the Sydney to Singapore 7 hour leg because she was confined to that tiny space for such a long time. Luckily for me, I got empty seats on both legs of the journey. So I set up shop and had a ball of a time. I was even able to fit in 3 movies!

Here are some tips I think that might be useful if you are travelling with an infant:

  1. Invest in a lightweight stroller.

We purchased the Bebe Mira Lite stroller from David Jones. It was reasonably priced, light-weighed and easily collapsible with one hand and one foot. It had 3 inclinations so I could even lay Maheera asleep while I was in transit. The seating is soft and easily wipe-able. I added a pram liner to give the stroller some colour and provide more cushioning for Maheera. It did not have a good basket so I ended up carrying most of my things.


A lot of mothers opt to wear their baby. This is OK if you are travelling with another adult or your spouse. I looked into the option of using a baby carrier but I realized – baby bag plus my carry-ons plus my bag plus carrying a 9kg baby would do tremendous harm to my back bone. I needed to off-load and pushing heavy weight would be much easier. Of course, Maheera could not stand or sit and carrying her did sound lucrative. However, I could not risk further damage to my back-bone. Fell off a horse and went through pregnancy and labour – that’s enough for me in this life time, thank you!

  1. Infants DO NOT do solids on trips

Maheera refused any form of solid food I gave her. She took 2 spoonfuls of khichri and then began fussing. Of course, it would have been wrong for me to expect her to eat solid food. Most 6 month olds just begin eating solid foods at that age and Maheera was (and I don’t think) will ever be a fantastic eater. So milk it was. Milk and rice (Cerelac) mixed with warm water. Every 3 hours like clockwork. She was sustained on milk, rice cereal and water the entire journey and she seemed quite content with that. I did not force feed for fear she might throw up and that would have been quite embarrassing!

  1. Ear pressure during take-off and landing

I am of the strong opinion that most modern aircrafts are able to balance air pressure in the cabin reducing pressure on your ears. A child’s ear is a thousand times more sensitive to an adults so of course it will hurt more. Some mothers let babies suck on a pacifier. I let Maheera suck on her water bottle. The water hydrated her and her constant chewing on the teat stabilised the pressure on her ears.

However, when we landed at Changi Airport and when we took-off and landed on the Bangladesh trip, Maheera was absolutely fine. No crying because of the air pressure. I did not even have to give her the bottle.

  1. Dress your infant down
“Where are we going Mummy?”

You and most importantly, your baby need to be as comfortable as possible. Time will come for you to dress your baby up again but for now, your baby needs to be as relaxed as possibly. Maheera wore no massive headbands or sparkly shoes or pretty frocks. Just plain cotton t-shirts and slacks from Target. Rompers are a good option. One piece of clothing. Easy to wear and easy to remove. Airports and planes and usually quite cold so I kept her in full sleeves and full-length pants throughout the journey.

  1. Carry your baby’s pillow and blanket

This is probably the best thing I did and I patted myself on the back repeatedly for doing this. I carried Maheera’s pillow and her original newborn cotton wraps which I use as light blankets now. One to put inside the bassinet and one to use as a blanket. In that way I could trick Maheera into thinking she was in her crib at home. The smell and feeling of her own things might help her sleep a little longer and give her a good sound sleep.


AAAAhhhhh… pillow….

  1. Keep your baby fresh, clean and moisturised

Give your baby a wipe with a damp cloth once in a while. This keeps them fresh and clean. I changed Maheera’s clothes and diapers even when I did not need to. That way I ensured she felt fresh. I gave her a good wipe all over and applied moisturizer when possible. It is the only alternative to giving them a bath.

  1. Keep an infant nasal spray, infant Nurofen and gripe water handy in your travel baby bag

Babies often get stuffed nose or a headache during journeys. It is absolutely essential that they not experience any form of discomfort.


Aside from the above, there is of course the usual tips:

  1. Carry sufficient diapers
  2. Carry extra clothing for your baby and YOU – of course YOU! What happens if that baby decides to show everyone the contents of his or her stomach and most of it is on your clothes?
  3. Talk to cabin crew. Do not be afraid to ask them any questions you may have about using infant belts and bassinets. What would happen if you needed to use the loo and your baby is asleep? Get them to do things for you. Heat water for your baby. Get you a snack. Anything! Hello, airlines tickets are not exactly inexpensive! Singapore Airlines crew were simply marvelous and extremely helpful.
  4. Take a few toys and don’t give them all at once to your baby. Babies get bored very easily. Distract them with everything around and give them their toys at long intervals. Maheera was more entertained by different faces around her than her toys.


Flying with children, toddlers and infants is definitely not easy. Actually, flying with some adults is not easy too! But it is important to keep yourself as organised as possible! If you are travelling with your spouse or another adult, it is definitely much easier because the stress is equally divided. But if you are travelling by yourself, keep organised and prioritise! Remember, do not compromise with your baby’s comfort. A happy baby is of utmost importance for a stress-free journey.

  • Keep your passports and travel documents in a safe but easily accessible place
  • Fill out immigration and customs form as early as possible and preferably when your baby is asleep
  • Keep yourself hydrated. Take a drink of water when possible. Also, keep Panadol and nasal spray with you.
  • Take a Kindle. More often than not, you might not get the chance to read. But if you are in transit and that baby has fallen asleep (by the grace and mercy of God!), get away from it all for a bit. Get your mind into some good fiction and come out rejuvenated!

I wish all travelling parents the very best of luck with all your travels. I hope my post has been helpful and has provided some insight into travelling with babies. No doubt, the longer the journey, the more impatient you and your child will get. But keep your cool. Take the time to refresh yourself as often as possible.

Happy travelling!!!


Our Image


Let us fall asleep together

And meet in our dreams

Where we lay upon green grass

And watch the clouds play hide and seek


Let us make a wish together

For a future that is unseen

For a path to a destiny

A destiny of our being


Let us bind this love we share

To create one powerful heart

A heart that holds the key

A key that opens our thrust


Let us make a simple promise

But never swear, as swearing is for liars

To reflect in our eyes an image

An image of you and I in love.





ALL I WANT IS SOME SLEEP!!! (Sleep in the third trimester)

Tips on how to sleep better during your third trimester:

  1. Nothing,
  2. Go back and read no. 1.


That’s how it is, lovely mums-to-be. No sleep at all during those last 12 weeks. You will spend your nights with your eyes closed but you will hear everything around you. You will even hear people breathing in the other rooms. If you have a pet, you will even hear it sleeping soundly pregnant-woman-and-catthroughout the night. These will be the most frustrating nights of your life – especially if you are working and all you want to do is come home and sleep like there is no tomorrow.

I remember those days when once every few weeks I had a 12 hour sleep marathon. This happened when I had been aggregating all my sleepless hours. I would crash into bed one day and wake up 12 hours later and it would feel as though I had been reset. Well, I can only dream of this and my 12 hour sleep marathon will be a distant memory once my bubby arrives.

I have read numerous forums on sleep deprivation during your third trimester and unfortunately they all say the same thing – you won’t be able to sleep. Yes. Good. I know that. But what tips can you provide? BabyCentre is a good website for new and confused mums-to-be to read. They provide a lot of insight to the new changes you will face during your gestation period. Also, you will find a lot of mums sharing their varied experiences. It’s a good read if you have a question at a strange hour and you need an answer RIGHT NOW!

Coming back to the issue at hand, none of these forums give you any collaborative tips on what to do to help you sleep better. Tips I have read are very basic such as drinking a warm glass of milk before bed time, exercise and prescription medications ( However, these avenues are very individual. They may or may not work. I, for one, am not comfortable taking medication to sleep. My GP recommended Blackmores’ Valerian earlier on in my pregnancy. It is an herbal sleep support medication. However, it did not do me much good. Even though the website says that it’s not recommended for pregnant women, when I consulted with Mothersafe (a free telephone service for the women of NSW dealing with questions regarding medicine and much more) they said it was ok to take. Regardless, it did not do any justice to me. I was still hearing my fat cat Tabby snore through the night!

Young pretty woman dreaming.

BabyCentre has confirmed that third trimester sleep deprivation will not harm your baby ( At least that is one good news. And I know my bubby is not sleep deprived. Bubby kicks well and hard throughout the night and last night my husband felt it kick for the first time. I asked him to keep his hand on my bump and I let him feel the kick. Normally, I would tell him every time it kicked but he would not feel anything. Last night, after waiting patiently for 10 minutes, he felt a kicked and said “Oh my god, was that it?!” So ladies, let them tell you if they feel anything. Leading them to feeling a kick does not work.

Third trimester dilemmas do not just stop at sleep deprivation. It is combined with the constant need to relieve yourself throughout the night. Last night, I woke up four times to use the washroom. This completely disrupts the few winks of sleep I can manage to gather.

BabyCentre has a few interesting ideas. One which I found helpful was to completely empty your bladder when you use the washroom. You can do this by bending forward at the end of your wee to ensure that you have completely squished every ounce of wee from your bladder ( This works but it also depends on how much you had to drink. One of their tips I was reluctant to follow was to reduce my fluid intake from later afternoon until bedtime. Keeping yourself hydrated during pregnancy is crucial. You need the extra water to ensure there is good blood flow for you and your baby. Plus, keeping yourself internally hydrated does miracles to your skin. We all want that “pregnancy glow” don’t we?

Pillows don’t help much either. When you are that big, you are just downright uncomfortable. Comfortable sleeping positions are a pipe-dream. Because unless your body and mind are allowing you to sleep, you can try all the positions and pillows in the world – you just won’t be able to sleep. Hence, I did not bother spending money on fancy pregnancy pillows. If you cannot sleep, you just cannot sleep.

240_F_78408398_NXl4XBgLlJySFy0zoVLYcjvqV3XgGBBTThis is why I went back to my initial advice. I look forward to something. A movie, a dish I want to cook, a new maternity top, guests and even payday! That way I do not look back on what I have missed out but instead I keep going because I have something to look forward to. Right now, my biggest event to look forward to is 7th September 2015! That’s when my super-mum is coming to my rescue! Hence I have decided to plan and decorate the guest room as much as I can.

As I said once, your first pregnancy feels like an experiment. You do the practical first before writing the hypothesis. Enjoy it while you can mums-to-be! And don’t worry, 20 years from the day you give birth, you can blame everything on the child!

Happy Pregnancy!